Fight Back Passive Aggressive Actions!
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Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
I Don't Know
How do you make a life with someone who only wants to live in their own head?
You can't.
You make the life you want happen.
And then hope they'll come along for the ride.
Friday, October 16, 2009
Limitations
No matter how much of an ocean of love mommy has .. some things in life are just beyond mommy's hands ....
So mommy can only pray and pray and pray...and love you the best you will let me.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Why the guilt?
i think those times when people feel guilt for something negative they cannot control..it is actually them grieving, but being unable to let go of the fact that they did not have control (much like a parent whose child inherits an illness)
for those time when people feel guilt for something seemingly 'inconsequential', it is them straining against the values they have been taught to adopt but are actually a mismatch to thier true essence.
as for those who feel genuine guilt over something that was done poorly, it is a regret, a wish within themselves to have done better.
in all cases, guilt is a SIGNAL..a type of gauge for our inner self love tank.. when we have guilt, we know we need to do some re-alignment within..whether it is to accept a truth we have been avoiding, or to evolve and sift out what is our true values that match who we truly are, or to take steps to forgive ourselves and move forward to a better today and tomorrow.
it is when i avoid guilt, and label it as a bad thing that problems arise. in fact, many of life's issues arise from a DUALITY VIEW of good and bad. when i reframe what has happened into what works/doesn't work or positive/negative and leave emotional judgements out of the picture..i can usually see better how that guilt can actually work for me, to help me re-align with where and who i really need to be..
for those time when people feel guilt for something seemingly 'inconsequential', it is them straining against the values they have been taught to adopt but are actually a mismatch to thier true essence.
as for those who feel genuine guilt over something that was done poorly, it is a regret, a wish within themselves to have done better.
in all cases, guilt is a SIGNAL..a type of gauge for our inner self love tank.. when we have guilt, we know we need to do some re-alignment within..whether it is to accept a truth we have been avoiding, or to evolve and sift out what is our true values that match who we truly are, or to take steps to forgive ourselves and move forward to a better today and tomorrow.
it is when i avoid guilt, and label it as a bad thing that problems arise. in fact, many of life's issues arise from a DUALITY VIEW of good and bad. when i reframe what has happened into what works/doesn't work or positive/negative and leave emotional judgements out of the picture..i can usually see better how that guilt can actually work for me, to help me re-align with where and who i really need to be..
I forgive you for breaking my heart..
How is it possible to forgive people who lie and steal from us..whether the impact is material or our time/energy even our happiness..?
I think that happens when we see that in forgiving them it is WE who are letting go of the hurt and negativity their poor choices have caused. We forgive not to bless them, but to bless ourselves, as an act of self love. Being positive does not mean we allow others to bully us and we become doormats, it is not to become foolish and lay ourselves open to attack. Rather, it is to always CHOOSE to reframe what is before us and inside us in a better light.to turn on the light sometimes. Darkness after all cannot be explained..it isn't really anything except the absence of light. So being positive is merely bringing light and love to any situation we are in..it's a choice that affirms our own soul's right to be free and to be loved. It is being able to CHOOSE for ourselves a happy ending within us, if not without, so we do not stay trapped and helpless by what has hit us hard.
I may not get back the item/time/energy stolen, but i will come to a point where i will also no longer believe that losing whatever it is that was taken away has impaired my life. I can overcome and thrive even..
I think that happens when we see that in forgiving them it is WE who are letting go of the hurt and negativity their poor choices have caused. We forgive not to bless them, but to bless ourselves, as an act of self love. Being positive does not mean we allow others to bully us and we become doormats, it is not to become foolish and lay ourselves open to attack. Rather, it is to always CHOOSE to reframe what is before us and inside us in a better light.to turn on the light sometimes. Darkness after all cannot be explained..it isn't really anything except the absence of light. So being positive is merely bringing light and love to any situation we are in..it's a choice that affirms our own soul's right to be free and to be loved. It is being able to CHOOSE for ourselves a happy ending within us, if not without, so we do not stay trapped and helpless by what has hit us hard.
I may not get back the item/time/energy stolen, but i will come to a point where i will also no longer believe that losing whatever it is that was taken away has impaired my life. I can overcome and thrive even..
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