Sometimes when you've reached the end, you just need to LET GO. At some point, we realise that we really can't ever have control of anything and that life is a tune that plays regardless of our preference for the music. We just learn to stop trying to change the music, or staying off the dance floor in a sulk and start learning to dance instead. It's not giving in or giving up - it's accepting.
Accepting isn't defeat. It's wisely adjusting your sails according to the wind so you keep moving forward.
It's a self-loving thing to do..to ALLOW ourselves to seem weak and accept what we don't want. Truth is, it takes far more courage to let go and accept, and then to grow and flourish despite the setbacks..
I know how it feels to have been there so many times, crying out in my heart what the hell?? Why? But then i realise it's just me fighting to hang on to my own desired outcomes and avoid my fears coming true. And that's all i do each day..fight. I keep rowing against the current. But when i finally let go..i find myself being swept downriver rather easily and i just need to learn new ways of rowing.
I've found that instead of feeling that i should get everything right upfront to control outcomes, i can instead trust myself to be able to handle whatever happens. That way i just follow my heart and intuition, decide on the best at the given moment and never look back with regret, doubt, guilt or self-incrimination. Because I CAN. To hell with people's opinions, responses and reactions. If i am giving my best - that's that.
And of course that frustration is your soul, your Inner Child crying out for attention. Because no relationship should play out against your own ability to value yourself, your self-worth as human being.
ReplyDeleteLetting Go is an act of grace; one which gets easier as we get older, ideally. We don't want to go through our lives acting like idiots until the bitter end. There has to be some sweetness in there with the bitter. It's just a matter of redirecting one's attention and attitude. As Lao Tsu said, "as I let go of who I think I am, I become more my self."