I wanted a love of a lifetime. It came. With complications. No one said Love is easy, but i never knew it could be this hard. But I promised for better or for worse.. and to believe that whatever challenges we have had to face in life... Love WILL make a way
Interesting. These are some of the primary reasons bipolars are given medication. Passive Aggression must be another from of pressure, coming from inside?
Of course, meditation can make a huge difference in a person's life. With meditation, one can eventually become more insightful in separating "my stuff" from "your stuff". A mental kind of boundary... Because many bipolar people have been scapegoated from the time they were children... So the emotions of defensiveness, hostility, being easily offended can always be right there, under the surface skin of things. And that's unhealthy. It can result in things like rashes, panic attacks, and even paralysis.
Many bipolar people who are afraid of intimacy have been scapegoated; so it's very hard for us to see, and separate my "stuff" from yours. And that's not OK.
People who make passive aggression a lifestyle become tyrants. Some are psychopaths. Clear boundaries are truly needed, helpful, and useful.
Another thing: never presume and don't be psychic. Two things that again set someone up to be scapegoated. Rather than be all-psychic and intuitive or presuming - ASK. Look into the person. Inquire into what's going on in their being. Keep creating dialog in such a way that you can love someone through their pain. If that's not possible, some time and space may be needed until it IS possible.
Loving someone is about making all good things possible. If not? Then maybe it's time for someone to hit the road! ha! ; )
Interesting. These are some of the primary reasons bipolars are given medication. Passive Aggression must be another from of pressure, coming from inside?
ReplyDeleteOf course, meditation can make a huge difference in a person's life. With meditation, one can eventually become more insightful in separating "my stuff" from "your stuff". A mental kind of boundary... Because many bipolar people have been scapegoated from the time they were children... So the emotions of defensiveness, hostility, being easily offended can always be right there, under the surface skin of things. And that's unhealthy. It can result in things like rashes, panic attacks, and even paralysis.
Many bipolar people who are afraid of intimacy have been scapegoated; so it's very hard for us to see, and separate my "stuff" from yours. And that's not OK.
People who make passive aggression a lifestyle become tyrants. Some are psychopaths. Clear boundaries are truly needed, helpful, and useful.
Another thing: never presume and don't be psychic. Two things that again set someone up to be scapegoated. Rather than be all-psychic and intuitive or presuming - ASK. Look into the person. Inquire into what's going on in their being. Keep creating dialog in such a way that you can love someone through their pain. If that's not possible, some time and space may be needed until it IS possible.
Loving someone is about making all good things possible. If not? Then maybe it's time for someone to hit the road! ha! ; )